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Delayed Grief Reactions

Delayed Grief Reactions

Delayed grief reactions are intense grief reactions occurring years after the death of a loved one. Watching a movie or the news, reading a book or the paper can ignite grief that was thought to be ‘processed’. Delayed grief reactions can be a normal response to a loss and it can complicate your grief process. Feeling sad when someone is sharing their grief story or crying during a movie when there is loss is not delayed grief. Delayed grief is intense grief and feels excessive.

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Memories of the Little Things

Memories of the Little Things

Can you remember the way your loved one smiled at you or the way he made you laugh? Do you think about the times you shared intimate moments and long to have those times back? Do you think about the little things like how he drove, cooked, or played a game? Most of us...

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A Grief Letter Can Help You Heal

A Grief Letter Can Help You Heal

Writing to Process Grief Sometimes I cringe when I hear this advice: Write a letter to your loved one and throw it away. People who are not trained grief counselors think this task will help the bereaved with ‘letting go’ or ‘moving on’ from their loss. It is true...

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Create a New Life After Loss

Create a New Life After Loss

When we are grieving, it is easy to go about each day striving to just make it through. And then something changes, and suddenly we realize we are living a new life. It may be a life filled with grief, but it’s new and comfortable. Sometimes this just happens. Other...

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The Power of Pets: Companion Animals Help Us Heal

The Power of Pets: Companion Animals Help Us Heal

Pets help us heal after loss Mourning a spouse can leave you feeling abandoned and lonely. Having a furry or feathered companion keeping you company can alleviate some of your loneliness. In my work with widows and widowers, I have heard some of the following comments...

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Change Your Space to Heal Your Heart

Change Your Space to Heal Your Heart

Will You Change Your Space? It has been one year since his death, and when you walk into the house, it feels like everything has changed. For years you have entered the house through the same door, expressed greetings in the same way, and seen the same faces. Now,...

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“Time Heals All Wounds”

“Time Heals All Wounds”

This platitude is so far from true. Most of us who have experienced the death of a family member, and who work through our grief in a healthy way would say time has nothing to do with healing. Time is powerful: it keeps moving, and even death cannot stop it, but it...

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