It’s the time of year when the air feels crisp and the leaves change colors. Autumn reminds us that life is full of changes. The trees cannot hold onto their leaves, and the birds must fly to warmer homes. What changes have you had to make in your life after your husband has died? How do you rebuild your life after the death of a loved one?
The Fall of Freddie the Leaf, written by Leo Buscaglia, is a classic book about grief for children. Even though the book is written with children in mind, I believe it is a great book for adults to learn the abstract message the book sends. In the book, Freddie the Leaf is trying to hold onto his tree branch with all his might. He is scared and confused about the whole idea of having to fall off the tree. The tree is all he knows because he has been part of it for his entire life and he fears what may be next.
Do you fear rebuilding your life after your husband’s death?
Your life has changed and it is time to find out what is next. It is common to feel fear when considering how to rebuild your life after the death of a loved one. Sometimes it feels wrong or disrespectful to the deceased loved one. If these are your fears, consider how you can rebuild your life with respect for the life your deceased loved one lived. It’s good to remember that life is full of natural changes and it is not wrong or disrespectful to rebuild your life.
Here are some ways to rebuild a life changed by the death of a loved one:
- Take a walk or drive and notice the changing colors of the trees. Consider how life continues on despite the falling of the leaves. The falling of the leaves gives life to the ground below.
- Consider the legacy your husband left behind. Maybe he had a passion for an organization or hobby. How can you respect his legacy and integrate it into your new life?
- Remember: one step, one part, and one season at a time.
About the Author:
Grief Counselor Karen Liebold, L.C.P.C., M.A. is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor committed to grief education. Karen has worked with clients in a variety of settings and has presented professional education workshops and seminars at both the national and international levels.
Disclaimer: This blog post provides general educational information from a mental health professional, but you should not substitute information on this blog for individual professional advice. If you are thinking of hurting yourself or someone else, contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255, call 911 or visit your local hospital Emergency Room. Karen Liebold is not a licensed representative of Royal Alliance Associates or Phase 3 Advisory Services.